FETE FAUX PAS DON'T MAKE THESE MISTAKES



After watching the bride and groom declare their love to the world, there’s nothing better than having a drink, sitting down with friends and family then enjoying a tasty meal.

But imagine waiting six hours for the reception to begin.

Where do guests go for that long? What can they do to kill so much time?

Making reception guests wait, for any reason, is one of the biggest reception faux pas couples make.

And the six-hour scenario may seem unrealistic, but it happened to Tuesdi Kelly, of Soiree, Etc., an event planning firm in Newark. “People remember the bad things,” she says. The wait—and the empty stomaches—will be all some guests remember after the wedding is over, even if everything else was perfect.

Waiting too long to start the reception is bad, but losing track of time and not sticking to a schedule is a mistake, too.

Planner Bobbie Yarrusso, owner of Creative Event Designs by Bobbie, knows couples whose photo session lapsed into the reception. In the moment, couples lose track of time, or, sometimes, the photographer gets lost because no one gave him directions. Either way, it’s bad to keep people waiting. Even a couple of hours might be too much. Kelly recommends taking photos before the ceremony.

That prevents the too-much-time-to-kill problem for guests and lets the newlyweds enjoy the cocktail hour.

Not being clear about the start time of the reception is another gaffe, Yarrusso says. If the reception isn’t immediately following, be clear on the invitations. An hour-and-a-half later is not immediate. Make sure people know. “Have some place they can go, or just let them know so they can kill the time,” she says.

If seats aren’t assigned at the reception, tell people. Have an usher or sign at the door directing people to seat themselves. You don’t want them looking for place cards if there aren’t any to find.

Samantha Munda, president of Secretariat, an event planning firm in Wilmington, says interrupting dinner too many times is a mistake. Let the best man and the maid of honor make toasts and move on. “You really don’t want to interrupt people too much,” she says. “Just do the toast and the first dance. Making people stop and having everybody be quiet more than that is a mistake.”

Munda says it’s best to limit the number of courses, too, because people don’t like to sit for too long.

That’s assuming, of course, your guests arrived at the reception site.

If the party is in the same location as the ceremony, that’s not a problem, but be aware of how many times guests will have to move. They won’t want to shuffle between rooms too much. Clear them out of the ceremony area, then get them to the reception area as soon as possible.

If the reception is at a different location, provide the complete address and directions. Drive the directions yourself because computer map sites can be wrong. Getting lost is frustrating and can create unhappy guests.

Making sure your caterer or banquet facility is experienced with the kind of function you want will avoid unhappy attendees, too. Kelly encountered that problem at a wedding where the bride wanted a sit-down dinner, but the caterer wasn’t used to offering those. The wait staff that day featured a few guest stars: Kelly and her staff. Having been hired to coordinate the day but not plan the events, she had no idea that would happen and did what was necessary to avoid a disaster.

“We had to, to make the day go smoothly and not keep the guests waiting,” she said.

After that experience, Kelly advises clients do homework. Make sure everyone knows exactly what you want and what everyone’s job will be. Confirm that the company or facility you’re using does what you’re looking for on a regular basis, too.

Even if the facility is experienced at serving wedding meals, a staff member or two who aren’t careful could create awkward moments. Make sure that the location staff follows your directions and enters or serves on your cues.

Ask to meet the people who will be working your reception, and be clear about what you want, Kelly says. Make a schedule, and give a copy to every vendor. Once that’s done, just let it go. Brides worry about every little detail of the ceremony and reception, but most people don’t really notice.

“The only things people remember are what the bride wore and how the food was,” Kelly says.

What food you served—or didn’t—may linger on guests’ minds. Experts disagree on what dining etiquette calls for. Yarrusso thinks offering only one meal choice is bad. Let guests pick either pasta or chicken, or beef or fish. Because you can’t please everyone, she prefers buffets, which eliminate the need for choices. People can sample a variety of items. Either way, ask your caterer to have vegetarian options ready.

“Most caterers, especially at banquet facilities, always have something they can fix up in a pinch,” she says. “Just ask. In most cases, you can be accommodated.”

But in the end, you can’t please all palates. “No matter what, you’re not going to feed people what they want to eat,” she says. “So go with something a majority would like. It’s your wedding, and you want to choose things that reflect your tastes and desires, but keep others in mind.”

Cocktail receptions, which feature drinks and hors d’oeuvres only, eliminate the “which meal” decision. Advise guests that only hors d’oeuvres will be served, says Robin Souter, wedding specialist at Harry’s Savoy Ballroom in Wilmington. Otherwise, they might refuse them because they think they’re waiting for a larger meal. This is especially important for receptions with a lot of seniors, who aren’t used to the more modern cocktail-only receptions, she says.

Another example: If you decide to have a cash bar instead of an open one, let guests know to bring money with them, through word of mouth of family members and the bridal party.

“People will be very unhappy if they do not have cash with them and can’t get a drink,” Souter says. All of the experts agree: Don’t play the music too loudly, and don’t put elderly guests near the speakers.

Munda recommends planning the room arrangement with older folks in mind. Seat them so they don’t have to walk too far to dance or go to the restroom or bar. And consider the noise level especially during dinner.

“Most people like background music then,” she says.

Also, consider the location’s setting. Sure, the restaurant atop the hill was lovely in spring when you picked it, but in a winter ice storm, the only thing your guests will remember is how difficult and treacherous it was to get to your party.

Remember: No matter how much planning you do, things can and probably will go wrong. “There’s no such thing as a perfect wedding,” Kelly says. “Things happen that we can’t foresee.”

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Elements of Nutrition
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Cost: free

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Greenville, DE  19807
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Thursdays from 4:00PM-5:30PM Fall session: December 1st, 8th and 15th Winter session: Starts January 19th, every other Thursday until March 30th This program is based entirely outdoors and is...

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Guest speakers Patty Dailey-Lewis, executive director of the Beau Biden Foundation, and Delaware Family Court commissioner Loretta Young will discuss how participation in social media can too...

Cost: Free

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Wilmington University - Doberstein Admissions Ctr.
320 N DuPont Highway
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The 3rd Place and Bike Lane Cafe along with WestSide Grows and Delaware Permaculture bring you the West 7th Street Bazaar.  Happening EVERY 3rd Thursday from January through May, there will be...

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January 19 – Thursday – 6:30 p.m. Research Seminar: Amyrs Williams (Wesleyan University) – Reimagining the Modern Farm The seminar is open to the public and is based on a paper that is...

Cost: $0

Where:
Copeland Room, Hagley Library
298 Buck Road
Wilmington, DE  19807
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The Resident Ensemble Players, Delaware’s professional acting company performing at the University of Delaware, presents The Bells by Theresa Rebeck. During the great Yukon gold rush of the...

Cost: $15 - $30

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Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
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HIGH & MIGHTY BRASS BAND There’s a reason that musical trailblazers from Galactic to DJ Logic have recently chosen to collaborate with High and Mighty Brass Band! and legends such as Dr. John,...

Cost: $15

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World Cafe Live Wilmington
500 N Market St
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January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
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Tutto Fresco
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Cost: $10

Where:
World Cafe Live At The Queen
500 N Market St.
Wilmington, DE  19801
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Meeting every Friday, Bayhealth Kent General Hospital, 640 s. State Street, Dover, 7:30 pm., Private Dining Room #3 in the basement. For those who have, or think they may have a gambling problem....

Cost: 0.00

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Bayhealth Kent General Hospital
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Private Dining Room #3
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Ah, typecasting—the baritone is always the bad guy! In Devils, Drunks & Dastardly Dudes, we’ll go on an operatic journey of men behaving badly. We’ll add a tenor to the mix, too… but we...

Cost: $29-$59

Where:
OperaDelaware Studio
4 South Poplar St.
Wilmington, DE  19801
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The Resident Ensemble Players, Delaware’s professional acting company performing at the University of Delaware, presents The Bells by Theresa Rebeck. During the great Yukon gold rush of the...

Cost: $15 - $30

Where:
Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
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January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
3922 Kennett Pike
Greenville, DE  19807
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Telephone: 302-654-8638
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Amateur and professional creators from the Wilmington community and beyond will sketch, paint and sculpt side-by-side with DCAD students, alumni, faculty and staff as nude and costumed male...

Cost: $30 per person

Where:
Delaware College of Art and Design
600 N. Market St.
Wilmington, DE  19081
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Telephone: 302-622-8000 x 123
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From foxes and beavers to cats and dogs, all mammals benefit from open space! Discover the signs of mammals in winter and learn about human impact on mammal habitat and population survival. Join...

Cost: FREE for TLC members / $10 for non-members

Where:
Bucktoe Creek Preserve
432 Sharp Rd
Avondale, PA  19311
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The Rehoboth Beach Film Society and the Cape Henlopen Educational Foundation are proud to present The Metropolitan Opera’s live broadcast of Charles Gounod’s ROMÉO ET JULIETTE on Saturday,...

Cost: $15 - $25

Where:
Cape Henlopen High School Theater
1250 Kings Highway
Lewes, DE  19958
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Sponsor: Rehoboth Beach Film Society
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The Rehoboth Beach Film Society announces the next play in the exciting series of National Theatre Live screenings. National Theatre Live is a groundbreaking project that presents the best of...

Cost: $18-$20

Where:
Cinema Art Theater
17701 Dartmouth Drive, #2
Lewes, DE  19958
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Cost: $30. Ages 10-18 and one adult per youth.

Where:
Bethel United Methodist Church Fellowship Hall
Fourth & Market Streets
Lewes, DE  19958
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Sponsor: Coastal Concerts, Inc.
Telephone: 888-212-6458
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Cost: 45

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Ballroom at University and Whist Club
805 N. Broom St.
Wilmington, DE  19806
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Cost: $20 General Admission

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Frankford Fire Hall
7 Main Street
Frankford, DE  19945
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Cost: $15 - $30

Where:
Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
Newark, DE  19716
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Telephone: (302) 831-2204
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Cost: $10 + FEES

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