One Couple, Two Weddings: Multiple Celebrations Accommodate Everyone
Call it split, non-traditional or destination— one wedding can be celebrated numerous times. And why not? PLUS: Wedding photos from Sarah and Javier Acuna’s celebrations.
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So, heritage and tradition presided over both of Erin and Pete’s nuptials. Erin walked down the aisle at her church with her father by her side. And, a week later, she was presented bread baked full of money, and wood chopped by village women in Greece. While dreams of her wedding had never featured the latter, they always centered on family and the joy they would bring. “When we planned our weddings, we knew we had the rest of our lives to make each other happy,” Erin Lazos says. For two days, their life centered on others and Erin celebrated, thrilled by the opportunity to wear her wedding gown twice.
Wearing a dress twice is one way brides who are having two weddings can save money. ‘“Hosting two events means you need to think more creatively about your budget and look for ways to save,” says Jamie Miles, online editor at TheKnot.com.
It doesn’t have to mean that getting married will cost you double. “If you have an overall budget of $50,000,” Miles says, “you could spend $20,000 on one event and $30,000 on the other.”
However, if a couple loses track of their budget when planning just one wedding, expenses can soar. Imagine how high they could fly when planning two. To keep bills in check, Miles suggests talking about budget and expectations with everyone involved early in the process. It can be the difference between breaking the bank and making the bank work for everyone. For example, Miles says, “families may be willing to contribute more to a wedding when they know that the couple is doing what they can to acknowledge their customs or religion.” In addition, these same family members can help with planning the fine details of these traditional weddings.”
The Best of Both Worlds
When Sarah Norris and Javier Acuna began planning their summer wedding, they figured that about 70 percent of their budget would be spent on their beach wedding in Grand Cayman. The remaining would cover a celebration at Acuna’s Wilmington restaurant, Sante Fe, when they returned. While budget was important to both of them, what guided them throughout their planning process was a desire to have an intimate, personal beach wedding that made everyone comfortable, including Acuna’s Columbian family.
“We wanted everyone to feel welcome,” Sarah Norris Acuna says. So, after the couple mailed wedding invitations written in both English and Spanish, Sarah learned how to say her wedding vows in Spanish and hired a DJ that had knowledge of Latin American music.
Planning two events was not as glamorous as Sarah had originally imagined and, at times, it was overwhelming. But, she says, before heading to Grand Cayman, she realized that all the hard work and attention to detail that she and Javier put in would be worth it. “I was truly relaxed and excited for the weeks to come.”