Sweat This, Not That
What's most important and what's not.
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Wedding planning can be taxing. But it should also be one of the most memorable times of your life. Before you rip that seating chart into shreds (again), breathe, and let Felicity Carmody of Felicity C Weddings help you keep your sanity. She breaks down the planning aspects that are paramount, and the things that you should just let slide.
The Numbers, Part One The word “budget” is scary. But budget is the No. 1 consideration. “Be aware of the budget all the time,” Carmody says. “Have ‘the talk’ in the beginning—who’s involved, who’s contributing what, etc.” Write down every single decision that involves money.
The Numbers, Part Two It’s not so much about inviting the appropriate people as it is about inviting the appropriate number of people. “This affects your whole budget,” Carmody says. “It dictates where you can hold the reception, what type of food you serve—seated or buffet—everything.” As soon as the champagne runs dry after the engagement celebration, get serious about numbers. “It’s really important everyone involved is on the same page.”
Vendor Contracts “Vendor contracts are to protect the vendor,” Carmody says. That means you have to be proactive in protecting yourself. “Read them clearly and really understand them, making sure everything you specify is written into that contract,” she says. “Don’t ever assume that, because it’s something you’ve discussed, it will be in there.” If you think the caterer is setting up your tables, but they think you are, you’ll both be in for a big surprise when you get on site.
Making It Yours You’ve picked a gorgeous site for your wedding, maybe a hotel or a banquet hall. But there’s only so much oomph you can get from a generic location. It’s up to you to up the personal feel. “Let your wedding reflect you,” Carmody says. It doesn’t have to cost a fortune. Golf aficionado? Carmody suggests adding some golf balls to the mix.
The Tick-Tock Factor Things happen. Your photo session goes long. The ceremony starts late. Having a wedding day schedule might prevent mishaps. “All vendors should follow a day-of timeline,” Carmody says. “This is your bible.” It’s über important that everyone involved, from the officiant to the ushers to the program distributors, has a copy. “If they see it, they’re more likely to take it seriously. I give one to everyone so they know where and when to go.” Fashionably late may work on a Saturday night, but for your wedding, not so much.
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