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Dear Old Mom and Dad
Include them in the planning. They have more to offer than you might realize.
Your wedding is all about you, right? Almost. You still have to accommodate your parents. So keep them happy—and make yourself happy too. Here’s how.
Set Boundaries Harry Shipman of Newark recommends setting healthy limits for parents during planning. “It’s your wedding, after all,” says Shipman, though he acknowledges that this may be a little more difficult if you’re not paying for the reception. So…
Talk It Out “I think it’s important to communicate openly with both sets of parents as soon as possible about your expectations,” says Melissa Cox of Newark. But don’t stop there.
Use Their Expertise “Involve them in the process and let them help with decisions,” says Amy Broadhurst of Middletown. Mom and Dad can also help with problems that may arise behind the scenes.
Choose a Liaison Lauren Southard of Newark will marry at the hotel her father manages, so he is her planner. “He’s helping me out so much by using all of his connections,” Southard says. Her mother enjoys meeting with vendors, so she has become the liaison between her daughter and husband in this unique arrangement.
Ask Specific Questions Wilmington photographer Becca Rahn, whose own wedding will take place at Nassau Valley Vineyards in Lewes, suggests asking for specific advice, like “Mom, I was thinking of having a pink bouquet. What do you think?” —Susan Oates