Like Sands in an Hourglass

Time changes all, yet at the beach, some things seem to remain the same.



I met writer Matt Desiderio in the summer of 1985. He was an English and film major at the University of Delaware. I was basically a surf bum. We intersected at a small boat rental at Fenwick Island State Park, where we taught sailing and boardsailing to vacationers and summer locals.

Matt and I have been friends ever since, so I know well the philosophical bent of his mind. If you read his “In the Wind” in February or “Everything but the Squeal” in March, you get my meaning. We’re excited about the insights Matt has brought to DT these past couple months.

I also know Matt’s experience of the beach well, because there are many parallels with mine. So I know that April is when he opens his family’s Bethany Beach cottage for the season, which is why I asked him to write about it. You can read his story, “Castles Made of Sand,” on page 80.

I believe Matt and I, our brothers and sisters, and all our peers are fortunate to have lived through not one but two magical times at the beach. Matt’s parents and my grandparents were of the World War II generation who found cheap land and a favorable economy, thus starting a small wave of development in little towns like Dewey, Bethany and Fenwick.

Our parents, aunts and uncles came of age at the beach, married, started families. Some went off to fight another war. For awhile, we young ones lived the same kind of beach life our elders lived. Activities such as shopping and dining were nearly unheard of because, well, there were no fancy shops or fine restaurants. We received two television channels, and they were unreliable at best. So we made our fun outdoors, and when bad weather prevented outside recreation, we played cards and board games. We knew our neighbors.

For awhile, things changed little. We watched Condo Canyon rise in North Ocean City in the early 1970s, as well as the towers of Sea Colony in South Bethany, but those developments were nothing compared to the building boom of the Reagan years. By the time Matt and I met, the beaches had also come of age. There were more homes (they even had insulation and heat), shopping opportunities (including—gasp—malls), good restaurants and bona fide nightspots. All of this was, of course, heaven to 20-somethings. Outdoor life and partying? How cool is that?

The beach towns continue to evolve. Long ago we got public water and sewer. We got cable TV. The phone companies have even eliminated most of the dead areas for cell users.

Yet it seems the more things change, the more they stay the same. In the Fenwick of the 1940s and ’50s, my mother, aunts and uncles played with the kids from Roxana and Williamsville, but they still depended largely upon themselves for company. Since then, they’ve all returned to the beach. They live in nice homes with heat and insulation and cable TV and cell service, but they still make their fun together. And there are more 60-something and 70-something “kids” for them to socialize with.

Even as the annual rituals of opening and closing a summer house like Matt’s become more rare, the beach remains a center of family life and a sort of spiritual home. Yes, there is more traffic, more houses, more condos and cheap motels, more pollution in the bays—more of everything. Yes, we could lament that Coastal Highway looks like Kirkwood Highway from Nassau to Dewey. But there is always magic at the beach.

On rare occasions, Matt and I still surf together. We still bump into old friends from windsurfing days at the Tower Road sailing beach, though they’ve all converted to kiteboarding. We still enjoy a cup of coffee or cold beer together on the porch.

And we still see kids who think their time at the beach is the greatest of their lives. I don’t think that will ever change.

Also this month, staff writer Matt Amis narrates a tour of some of the state’s most architecturally significant buildings. His preparatory survey of architects and scholars revealed a five-page list of important places. This month, we focus on historical and agricultural sites. Start your tour on page 74.

Looking for a dream job? Check senior editor Maria Hess’ “Great Places to Work” on page 68. Maria sifted through reams of information to compile a list of employers that offer their staffs something beyond the standard compensation and benefits packages. Whether you’re interested in law, finance, food, retail, or information management and technology, there is a place for you.

There’s more, as always. Please enjoy.

 

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January 2017

January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

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Sports Card & Collectible Show at Aetna Fire Hall on Jan. 22—sign up now! -Sports Cards McFarlane Figures Comic Books Non-Sports cards Wrestling Items Vintage Starting...

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Aetna Fire Hall
400 Ogletown Road
Newark, DE  19711
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Telephone: 302-983-2636
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The Rehoboth Beach Film Society announces the next play in the exciting series of National Theatre Live screenings. National Theatre Live is a groundbreaking project that presents the best of...

Cost: $18-$20

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Cinema Art Theater
17701 Dartmouth Drive, #2
Lewes, DE  19958
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Sponsor: Rehoboth Beach Film Society
Telephone: 302-645-9095
Contact Name: Jeri Kaplan
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Belly Dance Classes with Zahra Beginner & intermediate classes open to teens and adults Sundays in January starting Jan 8th Beginner: 2:30-3:30 p.m. Intermediate: 1 - 2 p.m (must get...

Cost: $15-$42

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Take the Lead Studio
320 Lantana Drive
Hockessin , DE  19711
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The Resident Ensemble Players, Delaware’s professional acting company performing at the University of Delaware, presents The Bells by Theresa Rebeck. During the great Yukon gold rush of the...

Cost: $15 - $30

Where:
Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
Newark, DE  19716
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Ah, typecasting—the baritone is always the bad guy! In Devils, Drunks & Dastardly Dudes, we’ll go on an operatic journey of men behaving badly. We’ll add a tenor to the mix, too… but we...

Cost: $29-$59

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OperaDelaware Studio
4 South Poplar St.
Wilmington, DE  19801
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Come give curling a try! At this 2-hour intro-to-curling event we'll provide a basic lesson then coach you through a mini-game.  Whether you just want to cross #curling off your bucket list or...

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101 John Campbell Rd
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January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

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The Station Gallery
3922 Kennett Pike
Greenville, DE  19807
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Telephone: 302-654-8638
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The Rehoboth Beach Film Society announces the next play in the exciting series of National Theatre Live screenings. National Theatre Live is a groundbreaking project that presents the best of...

Cost: $18-$20

Where:
Cinema Art Theater
17701 Dartmouth Drive, #2
Lewes, DE  19958
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Sponsor: Rehoboth Beach Film Society
Telephone: 302-645-9095
Contact Name: Jeri Kaplan
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Notbybreadalone Ministries presents Feeding the Hungry Outreach. All are welcome to come and partake of food, fun and fellowship. Those who desire a better way of life through Jesus Christ are...

Cost: Free

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2nd and 3rd Streets
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Guest speakers Patty Dailey-Lewis, executive director of the Beau Biden Foundation, and Delaware Family Court commissioner Loretta Young will discuss how participation in social media can too...

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Building A Auditorium
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3922 Kennett Pike
Greenville, DE  19807
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Cost: $18-$20

Where:
Cinema Art Theater
17701 Dartmouth Drive, #2
Lewes, DE  19958
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Sponsor: Rehoboth Beach Film Society
Telephone: 302-645-9095
Contact Name: Jeri Kaplan
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January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
3922 Kennett Pike
Greenville, DE  19807
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Telephone: 302-654-8638
Website »

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The Rehoboth Beach Film Society announces the next play in the exciting series of National Theatre Live screenings. National Theatre Live is a groundbreaking project that presents the best of...

Cost: $18-$20

Where:
Cinema Art Theater
17701 Dartmouth Drive, #2
Lewes, DE  19958
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Sponsor: Rehoboth Beach Film Society
Telephone: 302-645-9095
Contact Name: Jeri Kaplan
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January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
3922 Kennett Pike
Greenville, DE  19807
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Telephone: 302-654-8638
Website »

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Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9:30AM-12:00PM Fall session: Thursday, Dec 1st thru Thursday, December 15th Winter session: Tuesday, January 17th thru Thursday, March 30th   Drop in on Nature is...

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MARC BROUSSARD In 2004, Marc Broussard, then a precocious 22-year-old singer/songwriter, released his major-label debut; he called it Carencro, after the Louisiana town where he was born and...

Cost: $22 SRO- $32 SEATED

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The Resident Ensemble Players, Delaware’s professional acting company performing at the University of Delaware, presents The Bells by Theresa Rebeck. During the great Yukon gold rush of the...

Cost: $15 - $30

Where:
Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
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January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
3922 Kennett Pike
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The Resident Ensemble Players, Delaware’s professional acting company performing at the University of Delaware, presents The Bells by Theresa Rebeck. During the great Yukon gold rush of the...

Cost: $15 - $30

Where:
Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
Newark, DE  19716
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Sponsor: Resident Ensemble Players
Telephone: (302) 831-2204
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Cost: 0.00

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Bayhealth Kent General Hospital
640 S. State Street
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Dover, DE  19901
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Cost: $12-$20

Where:
Wilmington Drama League
10 West Lea Blvd.
Wilmington, DE  19802
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Sponsor: Wilmington Drama League
Telephone: 302-764-3396
Contact Name: Kathy Buterbaugh
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January 3 - 28  “Winter Group Show” Rotating Group Show features a variety of art in different styles and media. Custom Framing & Gift Certificates are always available. Gallery Hours:...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
3922 Kennett Pike
Greenville, DE  19807
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Telephone: 302-654-8638
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January 28 – Saturday – 1 to 4 p.m. Science Saturday – Truss Me, You Won’t Fall! Become an engineer for the day. Design a bridge to hold as much weight as possible....

Cost: Activities are included in regular admission and free for members.

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Hagley Museum
201 Hagley Creek Road
Wilmington, DE  19807
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Sponsor: Hagley Museum
Telephone: (302) 65802400 x 238
Contact Name: Jessica Eisenbrey
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The Resident Ensemble Players, Delaware’s professional acting company performing at the University of Delaware, presents The Bells by Theresa Rebeck. During the great Yukon gold rush of the...

Cost: $15 - $30

Where:
Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
Newark, DE  19716
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Sponsor: Resident Ensemble Players
Telephone: (302) 831-2204
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GRILLED CHEESE AND CRAFT BEER TASTING We have taken two of the best things on earth and paired them together – Grilled Cheese and Craft Beer – and paired them together in unexpected and...

Cost: $40

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World Cafe Live Wilmington
500 N Market St
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Cost: Tickets are $25 online, and $30 at the door. Student tickets $10 at the door.

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1904 Walnut St.
Philadelphia, PA  19103
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Sponsor: Lyric Fest
Telephone: 215-438-1702
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Fan favorite, Dick Smith, returns to the Dickinson Theatre Organ Society concert stage on Saturday, Jan. 28, 2017 for a show that is sure to bring the house down! Dick Smith has been a...

Cost: $15 Adults; $10 Students

Where:
John Dickinson High School Auditorium
1801 Milltown Road
Wilmington, DE  19808
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Sponsor: Dickinson Theatre Organ Society
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The Dickinson Theatre Organ Society presents Dick Smith. For tickets, click here: http://www.dtoskimball.org/events-tickets/ticket-information/ For further information, please call us at...

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The Resident Ensemble Players, Delaware’s professional acting company performing at the University of Delaware, presents The Bells by Theresa Rebeck. During the great Yukon gold rush of the...

Cost: $15 - $30

Where:
Thompson Theatre, Roselle Center for the Arts
110 Orchard Rd.
Newark, DE  19716
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Sponsor: Resident Ensemble Players
Telephone: (302) 831-2204
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Cost: $12-$20

Where:
Wilmington Drama League
10 West Lea Blvd.
Wilmington, DE  19802
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Sponsor: Wilmington Drama League
Telephone: 302-764-3396
Contact Name: Kathy Buterbaugh
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MOTHERSHIP Mothership is the area's premier Led Zeppelin Tribute show. Composed of seasoned, professional musicians Mario Padovani - vocals, keyboards, Frank Ginocchio - drums, Chris Julian -...

Cost: 15

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500 N Market St
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