Healthy Self Image: How to Love Yourself For Who You Are

Self image affects your physical and mental well-being. So go ahead... love yourself.



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JulieAnne Cross of Stanton was 24 before she began to love herself. She had struggled during her younger years, always feeling that she didn’t measure up—that she wasn’t pretty enough or smart enough or talented enough. No matter what others told her, she just didn’t believe them.

“I had grown up in a situation in which many of my family members valued the superficial—your looks, your clothes, your possessions. They judged a woman by her looks and her ability to attract a man, but I didn’t date much when I was younger, and I never felt that I was as attractive as others,” Cross, now 43, says. “And the longer I wasn’t part of a couple, the more I doubted myself. ‘Why doesn’t anybody love me?’ I wondered.

“I remember when I finally made the transition from being insecure to being secure,” Cross says. “I came to a situation where I was forced to go out and socialize by myself. I didn’t want to go alone, but I did. After that one event, my whole world changed. By forcing myself to be secure, I really did become emotionally secure.”

What it Means

Sometimes, the idea of loving yourself can get a bad rap. After all, when we want to say that someone is self-absorbed and narcissistic, we say, “He’s in love with himself.”

But that’s not at all that psychologists mean by self-love. To love yourself means to accept yourself as a person worthy of care and respect—from yourself and others.

“People have a strange notion that loving yourself is narcissistic, but it’s not the same thing at all,” says Wilmington psychologist Julie James. “I recall talking to one woman who was embarrassed to admit that she really likes herself and who she is. Rather than be embarrassed by liking ourselves, we should all be striving for it.”

“How we feel about ourselves and how we perceive ourselves dictates most of our lives—our decisions, our perceptions of the world,” James says. “If we really like ourselves, we will make choices from a more entitled, strength-based place. To love yourself means you believe you have something to offer, that you deserve things, that you have a sense of worth and value.

“People who don’t feel good about themselves lose their voice and are tentative about their own worth,” says James. 

In most cases, loving yourself is not an either-or proposition, but a continuum. Some people have achieved a high level of self-acceptance, and some people truly loathe themselves, says psychologist Kim Champion of Pike Creek Psychological Center in Newark. “But most people fall somewhere in the middle. There are things they like about themselves and things they don’t like. There are times when we accept ourselves and other times when we are too hard on ourselves.”

Very few people don’t have any areas where they feel insecure and vulnerable, James adds, and the ability to love yourself is “something that’s always in motion.”
 

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January 2 – 27 Winter Group Show A rotating group show featuring an eclectic mix of artwork including oil paintings, pastels, ornamental boxes, art glass and jewelry. Custom Framing and Gift...

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Pennsylvania Convention Center
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Arts-n-Appetizers is hands on this month! UWC will be hosting a paint party Thursday, January 18th from 6-8PM. Tickets are $55 per person and include all painting materials and buffet dinner! This...

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Cost: Free with Museum admission

Where:
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2301 Kentmere Parkway
Wilmington, DE  19806
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, DE  19801
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January 2 – 27 Winter Group Show A rotating group show featuring an eclectic mix of artwork including oil paintings, pastels, ornamental boxes, art glass and jewelry. Custom Framing and Gift...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
3922 Kennett Pike
Greenville, DE  19807
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Cost: Free to Members, $5 per child and one adult free for Non-Members

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Chase Center on the Riverfront
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Wilmington , DE
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Telephone: 302-286-5704
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Cost: 13

Where:
Pennsylvania Convention Center
1101 Arch St
Philadelphia, PA  19107
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Cost: free

Where:
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Cost: Free with Museum admission

Where:
Delaware Art Museum
2301 Kentmere Parkway
Wilmington, DE  19806
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200 Water St.
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, DE  19801
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January 2 – 27 Winter Group Show A rotating group show featuring an eclectic mix of artwork including oil paintings, pastels, ornamental boxes, art glass and jewelry. Custom Framing and Gift...

Cost: free

Where:
The Station Gallery
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Cost: 13

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The Lighthouse Inc., Church will be holding a revival themed "Broken and Spilled Out Glory Encounter". The revival will start on Monday January 15, 2018 at 7 pm and will run through...

Cost: free

Where:
The Lighthouse Inc., Church
6 South Railroad Avenue
Wyoming, DE  19934
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Sponsor: The Lighthouse Inc., Church
Telephone: 302-697-1472
Contact Name: Christopher Gore
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Show glides through life of professional figure skater Randy Gardner with help from Tai Babilonia and Dorothy Hamill. Wilmington, DE—“It ain’t no Ice Capades,” Randy...

Where:
200 Water St.
Wilmington
, DE  19801
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Sponsor: Carolina Millard
Telephone: 302-594-1100, ext. 215

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The first major retrospective exhibition of John Sloan’s work since 1988, An American Journey explores all facets of the artist’s long career: his work as an illustrator in Philadelphia, his...

Cost: Free with Museum admission

Where:
Delaware Art Museum
2301 Kentmere Parkway
Wilmington, DE  19806
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